Sometimes, I think we see/read obsession as an ugly word. The idea of us or anyone being obsessed with a person, thing, or action. I agree that it can be a little scary if someone is obsessed with you, drugs, alcohol, the likes.
Again, obsession isn't an ugly word. It could be a lot of other 'good' things- the positive kind of obsession.
I am obsessed with a lot of things, ideas, books, men smiling, blue skies, eggs, solutions, people, pasta, good emails. I see obsession as that rush that fuels your actions.
Obsession makes you want to grow, get better at something or do a great job, simply because you care enough than the average person. Being obsessed with an idea, or the idea of providing a particular solution gives you the energy to pursue it fully, wholeheartedly and fiercely. You learn not to do anything with a half ass attitude.
This is how I approach my human relationships too.
In a modern era of life where we are comfortable with doing the barest minimum for people we supposedly love. I choose to be intentional in my own little way. Because it is easy to get comfortable. Comfortable with the idea that the people in our lives will stay and forever.
So instead of texting all the time, I try to call. I don't pick out a generic or lazy gift I think they would like. I'm obsessed with this person, to care enough to pick out a thoughtful gift for them, or do something thoughtful.
I try to be kinder to them, I don't hurt them with my words or action. I find out what they like by studying their intricacies. Why they love pancakes or a favorite restaurant, book or song. I actually do the work to love this person. I am present and acknowledge them. Because sometimes it can get hard to be in each others lives with life happening to us.
I know how the world can perceive the word, obsession and this is why I once contemplated using it in a sentence for an email. I didn't want to scare the email recipient.
"I obsessively pay attention to detail."
Obsession doesn't need to be a scary/ugly feeling, word or action. Be obsessed about learning something new, friends, partners, ideas, pancakes, whatever. However, don't get so obsessed with your obsession that you don't express or act on that obsession.
idea > action
love > action
solution > action
Be deliberate about doing stuff.
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This gave more perspective for this email. I loved every bit of that paragraph.
See you next weekend,
Love, Martha.