This is not a disjointed rant; it's a beautiful summary of everything that makes sense.
On my walk this morning, I had journaled 'Martha, thank you so much for making my morning so beautiful, with the playlist you shared. I listened to it on my walk, and the world appeared brighter and more colourful to me.'
I love that you're having this conversation with yourself. It's the tough conversations that matter, and with time, it becomes easier. You have these hard conversations with yourself first and try to find the answer. Then, you have them with your 'friends.' Those who matter will understand the essence and importance of these conversations.
I'm sorry that you haven't been happy for most of the year. Please, fall into my arms, let me squeeze you tight.
Your friend's response to your rant sounds reasonable, only that I'd change it up to 'focus your energy only on you. This energy from within you would extend towards another and find those who really matter. First within, then without.'
I don't agree with the idea to 'move on, like they never existed.' This might be why I'm still friends with some of my exes, at least the reasonable ones. You are doing what you need to do, and that's asking, 'what happened?' Asking the 'why' to understand and have closure. If it's a relationship we can mend, we agree to mend it. If not, we can go our separate ways, with the clarity that it didn't work out.
I shared some stories on my WhatsApp status because of this post, and I'm going to share them here with you, because they resonate so much with me.
The first is the poem by Rumi: The Guest House
‘This being human is a guest house.
Every morning, a new arrival.'
The second is the poem by Chong Hyon-Jong: The Visitor
What I mean is, friendships start, and they end – and that's okay. It's also okay to feel heartbreak over love lost, and to seek closure; they're what makes us human.
I love the section on 'Love me with your eyes wide open.' Reading it reiterated the reason I reached out to you on Instagram and why I like you; it's because I see bits of me in you. There, that's one of my reasons for loving you.
Martha, I started writing my comment here with one thought in mind - to let you know that you're doing the right thing by having these conversations with yourself. I pray and hope you find the clarity that you seek, and I pray that you experience the immense happiness and peace that will come with this clarity.
Nanya, I have read your comment at least 3 times today. This is so beautiful that I almost cried the first time I read it.
I could feel your warmth through your words, like I was getting the big hug I always needed. You validated my thoughts and made inside my head seem a lot quieter.
What you said about focusing my energy only on me reminds me of this: “The love I seek is living inside of me” and truly I get it now. I can’t give freely except I have filled myself up first.
I’m glad you liked the playlist, I’m glad it made your day brighter, I’m glad you shared those poems with me, I’m glad you wrote this comment to me and for sharing honestly. When it gets hard, I will always come back to read this.
Thank you Nanya, your entire being is so beautiful.
Reading your response warmed my heart. I'm genuinely touched that my words could provide some comfort and clarity to you.
I love the phrase, “The love I seek is living inside of me.” It's a profound reminder for all of us to nurture our inner selves before we can truly give to others.
I'm so glad the poems resonated with you. Remember, you're not alone on this journey, and it's okay to lean on others when you need to. I'm here, cheering you on, and I'm just a message away whenever you need a listening ear or some words of encouragement.
Stay strong, keep shining, and always remember that your voice and feelings matter. Sending you another big virtual hug. 🫂🤗
Good piece. Lot of truth and brutal honesty in this. Basically how people feel this days. Clarity is definitely needed in every friendship/relationship. I Love the music attachment. Nice choice of music
My darling,
This is not a disjointed rant; it's a beautiful summary of everything that makes sense.
On my walk this morning, I had journaled 'Martha, thank you so much for making my morning so beautiful, with the playlist you shared. I listened to it on my walk, and the world appeared brighter and more colourful to me.'
I love that you're having this conversation with yourself. It's the tough conversations that matter, and with time, it becomes easier. You have these hard conversations with yourself first and try to find the answer. Then, you have them with your 'friends.' Those who matter will understand the essence and importance of these conversations.
I'm sorry that you haven't been happy for most of the year. Please, fall into my arms, let me squeeze you tight.
Your friend's response to your rant sounds reasonable, only that I'd change it up to 'focus your energy only on you. This energy from within you would extend towards another and find those who really matter. First within, then without.'
I don't agree with the idea to 'move on, like they never existed.' This might be why I'm still friends with some of my exes, at least the reasonable ones. You are doing what you need to do, and that's asking, 'what happened?' Asking the 'why' to understand and have closure. If it's a relationship we can mend, we agree to mend it. If not, we can go our separate ways, with the clarity that it didn't work out.
I shared some stories on my WhatsApp status because of this post, and I'm going to share them here with you, because they resonate so much with me.
The first is the poem by Rumi: The Guest House
‘This being human is a guest house.
Every morning, a new arrival.'
The second is the poem by Chong Hyon-Jong: The Visitor
'The coming of a person
Is a tremendous feat.
He
Comes with his past,
His present,
and even his future.
His entire life comes with him.
Since it's so easily broken
The heart that comes along
Was likely broken before
A heart
Whose layers only the wind can trace
If my heart could mimic that wind
It could become a welcome place.'
You can read the full poem on 'The Guest House' and my attempt at analysing it here: https://www.tumblr.com/wingedtimetraveltraveler/691225723174895616/the-visitor-and-the-guest-house
What I mean is, friendships start, and they end – and that's okay. It's also okay to feel heartbreak over love lost, and to seek closure; they're what makes us human.
I love the section on 'Love me with your eyes wide open.' Reading it reiterated the reason I reached out to you on Instagram and why I like you; it's because I see bits of me in you. There, that's one of my reasons for loving you.
Martha, I started writing my comment here with one thought in mind - to let you know that you're doing the right thing by having these conversations with yourself. I pray and hope you find the clarity that you seek, and I pray that you experience the immense happiness and peace that will come with this clarity.
Nanya, I have read your comment at least 3 times today. This is so beautiful that I almost cried the first time I read it.
I could feel your warmth through your words, like I was getting the big hug I always needed. You validated my thoughts and made inside my head seem a lot quieter.
What you said about focusing my energy only on me reminds me of this: “The love I seek is living inside of me” and truly I get it now. I can’t give freely except I have filled myself up first.
I’m glad you liked the playlist, I’m glad it made your day brighter, I’m glad you shared those poems with me, I’m glad you wrote this comment to me and for sharing honestly. When it gets hard, I will always come back to read this.
Thank you Nanya, your entire being is so beautiful.
My Martha,
Reading your response warmed my heart. I'm genuinely touched that my words could provide some comfort and clarity to you.
I love the phrase, “The love I seek is living inside of me.” It's a profound reminder for all of us to nurture our inner selves before we can truly give to others.
I'm so glad the poems resonated with you. Remember, you're not alone on this journey, and it's okay to lean on others when you need to. I'm here, cheering you on, and I'm just a message away whenever you need a listening ear or some words of encouragement.
Stay strong, keep shining, and always remember that your voice and feelings matter. Sending you another big virtual hug. 🫂🤗
With warmth and gratitude,
Ifunanya.
Thank you so much. 🥺❤️
Good piece. Lot of truth and brutal honesty in this. Basically how people feel this days. Clarity is definitely needed in every friendship/relationship. I Love the music attachment. Nice choice of music
Thank you so much for reading, Okechukwu. Feels good to hear that other people can relate to this and that you love the music I shared :)